The Empty Pickle Jar

Last Updated On: April 16, 2017

jarBetween responsibilities, obligations, relaxation and fun, we all have an innumerable amount of things to do in our everyday life, and while most of us have our priorities straight, it is unfortunate that many others get lots in the day to day rush and often forget what matters most.

To be fair, most of us don’t forget who’s important in our lives, but we tend to neglect them without even noticing.

And it is not that we don’t care. We simply get habituated to our routines and to them being “there” for us so without even realizing it, we take them for granted. Truth is, families fall apart and relationships end not all of a sudden, but little by little, as feelings erode throughout time and the spaces between people become abysses.

The good news is that this can be completely avoided. We just need to decide to pay attention to details and bring to our awareness what matters most as often as possible.

And that is exactly what this little and powerful video will do for you today. Titled “The Empty Pickle Jar,” it delivers an inspiring and thought-provoking message in a beautiful metaphor in 3 minutes flat. Watch it. You’ll be glad you did. It will make you reflect and get you thinking about the golf balls in your life. And, once you know that golf balls come first, you’ll make sure you’re making room for them and discover that there will always be extra room for pebbles, sand and even chocolate!

Yes, I’m aware. You have no idea what I’m talking about, but that is perfectly fine for now. One thing I can tell you… The life lesson presented in the video will help bring awareness to your priorities, so bookmark this page and share it with your loved ones. At the end of the day, you know you should never spend all of our time and energy on the small stuff because if you do, you will never have room for the things that make life worth living… such as golf balls 🙂

OK, I’ll let you watch “The Empty Pickle Jar,” here… (when the mini-movie is over, close that window and you’ll come back to this post.)

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So, what do you think? Do you have golf balls in your jar or is it just filled with pebbles and sand? Golf balls, you say? Congratulations! And if it made you re-think your priorities, that is perfectly fine too, because that is the purpose of the video.

So, how do you find balance while keeping the golf balls in your jar, always? Here’s an idea for you:

1. List your responsibilities and obligations (such as your job, paying bills, cleaning the house, cooking, fixing stuff around the house, etc.)

2. List your pastimes and fun activities (such as going to the gym , spending time with friends, going to the theater, gardening, etc.)

3. Jot down your daily schedule (at what time you get up, start work, get home?)

4. List your life goals (such as your dreams and plans; the things you want to achieve)

5. List your golf balls… what matters most to you.

Now, prioritize 1 through 4 and see how you can fit 5 into all or most of your days. Here are a few examples:

A. Get up a bit earlier and enjoy breakfast with your spouse instead of gobbling up a quick bite in the car; go for a walk after dinner to share some time together, etc.

B. Take the kids to school often; enjoy a board game or puzzle before they go to sleep (or on the weekend.) And if your kids are older, include them in decisions, in conversation, in planning a trip, etc.

C. Skip a meeting at work to attend a school event; take the whole family for a picnic, a movie, a fair, a rodeo, etc.

D. Include your spouse in the planning of your life goal (Hey, two minds think better than one!); ask for their opinion or input on a particular situation; go grocery shopping together, etc.

And if for any reason your schedule seems so tight that you cannot fit anything else in your life, ask yourself… what activities could I drop in exchange for keeping more gold balls in my jar?

Whatever you do, always remember that often, we don’t realize what we have until it’s gone. Too often we are too proud to say “I’m sorry” and rectify. Too often we seem to hurt those that we care about the most as we allow for the foolish things to tear us apart. Don’t let that happen to you. Make the best of the time you have and always give priority to your golf balls.

Did you enjoy “The Empty Pickle Jar“? Did it make you reflect on your life and what matters most to you? What do the golf balls represent to you? How do you keep balance so the golf balls are always in the jar first? Please share your comments below  — and have some chocolate too 🙂 — Thanks!

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11 Responses to The Empty Pickle Jar

  1. apsuccess May 1, 2015 at 1:44 AM #

    I enjoyed this post so much! It is so meaningful. Your exercise is good and your suggestions. This is my favorite post yet. I really liked the video and I will continue to reflect on it with a smile and to check myself. Thanks. Value for family is so essential and the prioritizing too.

  2. Jaime May 4, 2015 at 6:49 PM #

    Wow Tammy! This article and video definitely made me think! It was very powerful, yet simple enough for anyone to understand. I will make my lists and prioritize all the important things in my life and make time for the things that count the most to me today. Awesome stuff indeed! Thank you so much!

  3. Somar1 May 11, 2015 at 7:01 PM #

    I loved this video. I actually have a printed version of this that I’ve had tucked away in a folder for years. I am going to pull it out and add it to my vision board. It’s such a great message, but so many of us ignore it.

    • Tammy May 13, 2015 at 9:30 PM #

      You’re absolutely right! Not only is a great message but one that – I believe – every person must hold close to their hearts, for if we don’t give priority to the MOST important, what is then life meant for?

  4. EditorsRHumansToo! May 17, 2015 at 1:50 PM #

    A delightful teaching. The family unit matters the most in life. Dreams, ambitions and goals are inclinations in life in whom our family places a very important role in encouragements to cheer us on for support.

    Sometimes, family members make a mistake in recognizing each other’s gifts and talents that make up our dreams and destiny. We should draw it out to them gently and clearly about how we feel about our aspirations. Their understanding and love must be encouraged as well. Their support must be gently requested of them. So that, they can also share the joys of our success and victories. It’s for everyone’s benefit and enjoyment that each member of our families witness our dreams unfold to fruition with step-by-step success and blessings.

  5. Jess July 31, 2015 at 6:52 PM #

    While I do not remember seeing this before in my life, I find it enlightening to know from personal experiences how true this is! I think the quick video would be great for STUCO groups in schools to display at assemblies. I love finding new metaphoric videos. Thanks!

  6. GemmaRowlands August 18, 2015 at 9:31 AM #

    I think that this is amazing. It shows that no matter how full we believe our lives are, there is always room for something more, meaning that we can fit other things into our lives. There are so many people who believe themselves to be too busy for everything, and as a result of this they never get anything done of what they WANT to do in life, only the things that they feel they HAVE to do, which is a great shame indeed. I will be sharing this video on my social networks if you don’t mind, as I believe that it is very important.

  7. mandamoooo August 18, 2015 at 2:28 PM #

    I’m sure we can all relate to being the someone who was neglected for being there, and vise versa. I love that this calls attention to it, and makes me reflect who I have neglected and how it felt to be the one neglected. While these are great tips, sometimes the other person had to realize the same factors or to actually care. I’ve gone out of my way plenty of times for loved ones, and still we’re treated as a fall back or stranger. Though, I’ve learned to hold a grudge over it, and take it that they haven’t found the importance of loved ones. We all hit that point at sometime in our lives, it’s just a matter of time, and whether of not it’s too late.

  8. jsmoresugar November 23, 2016 at 4:45 PM #

    I really like this. It’s so simple, yet also very deep in meaning. It really gets you thinking and helps you get focused. Priorities matter, and once those are done everything else can fall into place.

  9. lomcfad November 28, 2016 at 2:01 PM #

    I’ve seen this video before but I still watched it again today, because I like it so much. I read an article earlier in the week about sun water. It is water that you put in a blue bottle and leave in the sun. It supposedly soaks up all the sun rays. The water is said to help open your chakras and cleanse your soul. Blue is proven to have a relaxing effect on the soul and body. I think I may make some blue sun water to put in the jar instead of chocolate milk. Instead of chocolate, mine will say there’s always room for relaxation and treating your soul.

  10. Emilio R. March 7, 2017 at 6:12 PM #

    I love this teaching so much. My parents taught this to us growing up. Not so much with words, but with the way they lived. It’s a mindset that my siblings and I have continued to carry with us. I know that I have seen this somewhere before, but it was so long ago. I had completely forgotten about it. I’m definitely going to share it. Thank you! ❤

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