There comes a point in your personal development path in which you must stop and ask yourself certain questions to become aware of your reality and see where you are and how far you’ve gone on your self-growth path. When you ask the correct questions and you are honest with your answers, you will clearly identify the areas in which you have made progress as well as the aspects that still require improvement.
Be all you can be, is a positive way to start your day; however, if you don’t stop every now and then to dedicate some time for soul-searching and ask yourself questions such as these ten questions for self-growth, it’ll be too easy to get caught in the daily grind and remain stuck in situations that you intend to change but never have had the time for.
Nevertheless, when you aspire for something deeper and more meaningful in life, you must dedicate some time to self-analysis, inquiry and introspection… at least a few times per year. It is through inner contemplation that you determine not just what you want (and I’m sure you are aware that ‘wants‘ and goals change throughout life) but if you are on the right path to achieve what you desire.
The following ten questions for self-growth can get you started toward exploring where you are in life and if you are on target to achieve the changes you seek. Perhaps you can come up with questions that are more pertinent to your personal life experience, so take these as guidance and elaborate on your own.
Ten Questions for Self-Growth
1. What do I really want?
This is a question as old as humankind. Perhaps you want to do so many things that you’ve gotten confused or have left everything for a ‘better moment‘. Or maybe you want to accomplish just a handful of things but you’ve got little time to even go about one of them during a regular week. First, realize that there is no better moment than right now. After all, life is too short to wait on something you truly want. Secondly, I suggest you find something that you are good at; just one thing to get you excited and then take the first step. Little by little, you will be moving forward towards the self-improvement you’re after. Diligence is key.
2. Do I really want to pursue ‘X’? (whatever X means to you)
If history has taught us one thing, it’s what we’re constantly learning and changing our wants and goals as we grow, evolve and go through life. Some wants are essential. They represent something we want badly, what we want to become as individuals. Life Coaching refers to these wants as your life purpose. Other wants are related to life seasons; thus, more malleable according to the experiences we go through. For instance, your life purpose may be to be of service to others at a personal level. Perhaps this want is related to your chosen field or profession, such as becoming a counselor. Another kind of want (not necessarily your life purpose) may be your desire to learn to sing, but as time passes you realize that this want is not appealing to you any longer. Now you are more inclined to learn how to draw.
3. What’s the bright side in all of this?
Whatever you want to pursue in life, there will certainly be challenges to overcome. The main point here is to always focus on the positive or the bright side of things. If you feel passionate when you think about achieving a certain thing or goal, you will surely find a bright side to it despite the present trouble. Always keep in mind that nothing is permanent and that once the challenges pass, you will get to enjoy the fruit of your labor.
4. Am I happy with what I’m doing?
Be very honest when answering this question. It may seem obvious, but after giving it some thought you may discover that you are not happy with your goal or the way things are going. Perhaps is time to evaluate your want once more. Or maybe you just need to tweak some things, add or remove others, and realign your want with your happiness. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting tasks or questions to be experimented on. Whatever you do, just make sure it brings you happiness not just with the end result but as you go as well.
5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do or can do? Oftentimes we focus on pleasing others, especially those we care about, and we do it so much that we forget about our own needs and dreams. There is nothing wrong with giving to those we love; however, make sure things are in balance. This means that you should also dedicate some time to doing something for yourself. Discontentment can be dangerous in large doses, and if it accumulates it creates resentment toward those you love. Don’t allow for this to happen! Give yourself time to pursue things you love, and do it just for you. Contrary to mainstream belief, this is not selfish but an act of love. When you are ok, everyone around you will most likely be ok too.
6. Am I happy at where I am today?
Another important question that only you can answer; but I must warn you though: many people are very harsh on themselves. If you have not advanced toward your goal as you’d planned, don’t be too harsh thinking that you’re taking too long, that it’s not worth it or that you should forget about it. Evaluate your present situation honestly and fully. Perhaps you’ve had an extra busy month? Does that truly mean that your goal is not worth it? Are you procratinating or is it that you honestly have not had the time to start just yet? Is there something you can do right now to start on your goal at once? Perhaps you need some assistance to get things going? Also remember those areas where you are happy even if not directly related to your goal. For instance, are you a good and loving mom or dad to your kids? Give yourself some credit! The same goes for other things in everyday’s life!
7. Am I attractive to the other people? (or to the opposite sex?)
So maybe you don’t believe you are extra special or super attractive. Would you be surprised to learn all of that is 100% irrelevant? You can decide to shape-up, change the way you wear your hair, upgrade your wardrobe, or learn to be more charismatic. All of that is a choice and has nothing to do with the way you look or any special talents. When you change your attitude toward people, you can get amazing results. Always remember that positive changes like these ones will always be for your own benefit.
8. How much could I have?
It’s easy to get carried away by materialistic goals, especially if you live in a Western World society. Just be aware of this and ask yourself if you want something because your friends or the neighbors have it or because it will truly make your life better and happier. Having lots of money is appealing, no denying it, but the question behind this is… how much are you willing to give up for it? Sometimes the most precious memories are those of having had time (not money) to share special moments with those you love.
9. What motivates me?
What motivates you in life, precisely? Most people think about getting something tangible as a motivator to go and work for it. For instance, upgrading their vehicle may be a huge motivator for some, and when they get it they feel happy indeed. But ask yourself… how long will that feeling last? When you think about motivation you have to think of the greater picture. How about getting to enjoy your golden years knowing that you did your best? What would be your motivator to achieve that goal? What’s truly valuable to you? This are answers you have to find out for yourself. At the end of your life, your heart and memories could be filled with joy. And most likely, you won’t remember (or won’t care) where that fancy car ended.
10. What Really Makes Me Tick?
So… what really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be. It may sound cliche but it is true. Whatever you want and whatever moves you, don’t ever give up on your dreams and journey, regardless of how difficult it may seem to achieve. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical, mental or philosophical change you undergo, but it’s something that you truly want for self-fulfillment.
Where these ten questions for self-growth useful to you? Please share your comments below. Thank you!