Reach Your Goals with Positive Self-Talk

wonderingCongratulations! You’ve got a great idea and a new goal. You are filled with excitement and motivation as you set your plans to reach your goal. You start working toward it, but… as the days pass -suddenly and out of nowhere-  you start experiencing nagging, self-doubt, and self-defeating thoughts that stop you in your tracks. You freeze and stop moving toward your goal as you feel inundated with thoughts that appear to justify your lack of action such as, the many reasons that you are not up to the task, how you don’t have enough experience, or why you are not qualified to carry it through.

Are you always talking yourself out of success?

Yes, it can be difficult to make the most of your life when you are constantly talking to yourself in this fashion. It can also be frustrating and discouraging to have these thoughts plaguing you frequently. Many people, in fact, don’t even realize they have them! All they know is that they lack the confidence to stick to their plans and reach their goals, but can’t figure out why.

If you are nodding in agreement, don’t worry. You are not alone. You now know that happens because of the unfriendly inner dialogue that we all experience every now and then. The solution to this problem is to change the way you respond to your negative self-talk. Even though it can be challenging to reach your goals with positive self-talk, with frequent practice you will achieve success.

Reach Your Goals With Positive Self-Talk

So how do you get a hold of this inner chatter? – you may be asking. The short answer is to refuse to obey the negative commands that pop into your mind, and counteract them with positive self-talk. Once you learn to do this regularly, you will be able to overcome nearly all negativity and anxious thoughts.

Using positive self-talk is an effective way to ensure that you stick to your plans and reach your goals. This is how it works: First, you plan the logistics of how to reach your goal. Then, you start working on your plan at once. Sometimes taking immediate action helps defeat negativity a great deal as you start seeing some results that reinforce your confidence and positive outlook.

But, if self-doubt kicks in and the chatter starts, you must counteract the negativity with positive affirmations that support your abilities and prevent surrendering to the negative pressure. Since you’re reading this article, it’s fair to assume that you’re not a quitter or a failure. So just start using positive affirmations to strengthen your belief in yourself.



Re-Programming Your Mind

Affirmations are positive statements to re-program your mind for success. You should have many affirmations written down, and a handful of them memorized so the moment you have a self-defeating thought you start repeating them to counter the negativity and get moving again.

One example of a positive affirmation that you can use when your inner talk insists that you are not worthy of success is this: “I deserve success, and I accomplish my goals successfully every time. I can see myself in the winner’s circle.” An affirmation like this will help you move toward your goals instead of allowing self-doubt to conquer your thoughts.

An interesting fact that you must bring into awareness is that -most likely- you are not even aware of the severity of the negative inner chatter going on in your mind. However, once you start practicing positive self-talk, you will suddenly realize the many times you were self-sabotaging your goals in the past. This simple process can be an eye-opener to how many times this inner chatter has interfered in your life. The good news is that now you know better. You can now set goals and achieve them as you get a hold of this interference.

Positive self-talk is not difficult to implement; however, if you want to reach your goals with positive self-talk, repetition is key for success. Now that you know the impact that positive self-talk can have in your life, you will be able to set goals with confidence knowing that you have a greater chance to achieve what you want.

Do you use affirmations to counteract negative chatter? Do you plan to use them to push yourself further and achieve your goals? Please share of your experience below… Thanks!

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22 Responses to Reach Your Goals with Positive Self-Talk

  1. pafjlh April 27, 2015 at 12:09 AM #

    This blog post is so true, it is easy for us to have negative thoughts that stop us from keeping our goals. Yet changing these thoughts and turning to positive thinking isn’t as easy as it sounds. Believe me, I know especially right now. I am in the middle of crossroads myself, and have a whole lot of uncertainty going on. It’s hard to keep a positive attitude but I work on it every day and your blog has helped.

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 9:10 PM #

      Glad to read that the blog has helped you. Keep on the positive self-talk. Don’t give up and you will soon see results. Wishing you the very best!

  2. Find Lane April 27, 2015 at 11:50 PM #

    I love your blog. I browse it often. It truly helps me everyday.

    • Tammy May 13, 2015 at 9:43 PM #

      Awesome! Glad to hear that. Thanks much for stopping by and commenting 🙂

  3. Ellie May 1, 2015 at 12:02 AM #

    I’ve definitely incurred in self-sabotaged by talking myself out of things before. I’m better about it than I used to be, but it’s a habit I haven’t completely broken yet. Positive self-talk was something I used to write off because I’d feel like I was kidding myself, but I’ve experimented with it and I do feel like it helps, even though it can be challenging. I like this guide, it’s a great reminder.

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 8:36 PM #

      Ellie,

      It certainly works, however, you must somehow stop the prejudgment that you are kidding yourself. This only creates resistance… remember, what you resist, persists. Give self-talk a go with an open mind. I promise you’ll see the difference. Here’s an article I wrote awhile back that might be of help… “Self Talk: How you communicate with your “self

      Best 🙂

  4. VisioneeringLifestyle May 1, 2015 at 1:58 AM #

    There are so many voices that vie for our attention. Mostly, they are voices in the din of false hopes and untruthful promises.

    I quote you:

    “Are you always talking yourself out of success?
    Yes, it can be difficult to make the most of your life when you are constantly talking to yourself in this fashion. It can also be frustrating and discouraging to have these thoughts plaguing you frequently. Many people, in fact, don’t even realize they have them! All they know is that they lack the confidence to stick to their plans and reach their goals, but can’t figure out why.”

    It’s always somebody, if it’s not me, thinking self-degradation into giving up the idea that there’s always a way out of this tunnel-thoughts. But first, conversations to oneself bring benefits to the mind and whole well-being. Self-awareness should lead to self affirmation and persistence to reach who we want to be. “Be”-ing sticks more to reaching my passion: be good at writing, be an encourager, be a healing vessel to the sad and grieving, be contagious with happiness and joy, be a good person…

    I think, when I see a need in my environment, I would have no room for self-pity and unhelpful self-talk. I would jump right away to act on being a helper and encourager.

    These acts take time to master until it becomes ingrained naturally (without tossing whether to do it or not) and with persistence.

    Thank you! 🙂

  5. apsuccess May 4, 2015 at 2:43 PM #

    I do combat negative chatter. I may not always use affirmations, but I combat the negative thoughts with positive ones. It is true that doubt comes when you set a goal. I like the affirmation you shared and I want to start using positive affirmations more often to help me fulfill my goals. The video in the last post gave me more understanding about using affirmations.

  6. Sophie May 5, 2015 at 12:24 PM #

    I have been mostly a positive person throughout my life, but I have to say that when my mind gets boggled with a problem, is not as easy to stop it. I liked that self-talk program in the link. I think I’ll give it a try. Thanks!

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 8:18 PM #

      I’m sure it’ll help, Sophie! Namaste…

  7. Athene May 9, 2015 at 1:05 AM #

    While I can agree that these can be very effective tips, I have to ask – what about for those of us who suffer from clinical depression or another mental illness? For some of us, the problem is more than just negative self talk – it is a chemical imbalance that, sometimes, we have absolutely no control over, no matter what we do. We can write down affirmations all day long and stick them everywhere we go. We can journal, work out, hang out with positive people, watch The Secret, read positive books, and still be stuck under the gloomy cloud of depression. Aside from taking our meds as prescribed, are there any other tools that can be utilized for those of us that have a chemical predisposition for negativity?

    • Tammy May 13, 2015 at 9:42 PM #

      You are absolutely right, Athene. If your condition is clinical depression, seeking the advise of a professional is imperative. It seems that you are already doing that, and if you want to enhance the results, I’d suggest you keep on reading positive literature. Also, meditation and visualization may help you too. I have also heard wonderful stories by people who’ve tried EFT or Tapping, for similar conditions such as depression due to PTSD. Consult with your physician and give these a try!

      Best!

  8. yvanna h georgianne May 19, 2015 at 8:37 AM #

    This post is really helpful. It’s true that sometimes, it is us who’s keeping us from our goals and dreams. That is a problem of mine as well. I am a very goal-oriented person and yet it’s sad that I don’t get to accomplish it all because I entertain negative thoughts. It’s easy to have self-doubt. It’s hard to overcome this but the first step is always the hardest. I am going to try the self-talk method. I know that our desire of success must be always greater than our fear of failure.

  9. angelo June 6, 2015 at 4:26 AM #

    I used to blame my outside environment for my lack of drive. This article somehow explains that having a positive inner-environment is more important for motivation and success. Thanks for writing this blog!

  10. gagan June 18, 2015 at 3:12 AM #

    I truly liked this article. I do believe that positive self-talk really helps to stay motivated. Positive self-talk has been my best ally in my life.

  11. ajzappola August 6, 2015 at 8:12 PM #

    I have been practicing positive self talk as well. I am finally learning how to spot the negative self talk when it arises; before it gains any momentum. This is empowering. My life has started to change and I feel the creative power flowing in. It takes practice and I remember not to let anything that does not appear to be in alignment with my desired results kick start the negative chatter. I think that trick is to believe fully in the words. I have learned to expect great things from myself when I remove the illusion of limitation from my dreams.

  12. Angel JMore July 27, 2016 at 3:52 PM #

    Right now, I’m facing personal and professional difficulties. I thank the people behind this site and this blog for providing me with the inspiration to take control of my thoughts, emotions and life as a whole. I agree with @Sophie that it is hard to stop negativity when one is burdened with problems. However, I cannot and should not allow that situation to defeat me. I also believe in the power of prayer and our God who is always by our side. With all these, I affirm that I will live life to the fullest towards a bright and an exciting future!

  13. zenFrog October 25, 2016 at 8:25 PM #

    I’m a big fan of writing down positive affirmations for myself. Specifically, whenever I fail horribly at something. That is when the negative chatter gets loud and self doubt creeps in… I combat that by acknowledging that yes, I failed, but no, I am not a failure. Then I write down concrete examples of things that went well and prove I can achieve success. Then it’s time for the next attempt! Learn from your mistakes, then let them go.

  14. Elle January 30, 2017 at 4:10 PM #

    This blog post is like answering the so many questions in my head. I never seem to finish anything I start up with because of the negative voices. But thank you for making me realize the simple solution to the problem. I will most definitely make it a habbit counteracting negatives with positives.

  15. Beau M. February 27, 2017 at 1:11 AM #

    I don’t think people realize the damage they do to themselves with their own negative self-talk. If you stop and think about what you are saying to yourself and ask if this is the way you would talk to others it can be a real revelation. Positive self-talk is very important in life and for success.

  16. Judith D. March 2, 2017 at 9:08 PM #

    I really loved your article on positive thinking. As I get older, I have realized how much I need to do positive thinking on myself. I am a freelance religious writer and I have caught myself saying “Judith, you are doing a good job.” I feel good about myself when I catch myself thinking positively.

  17. GottaKnow March 3, 2017 at 10:33 AM #

    I feel lost with life itself sometimes but I still want to stay positive to strive for my dreams. I’m a ‘forever hopeful’ person and that is the good thing. I know for a fact that every hardship leads to something fruitful eventually but what can I do when I get bombarded with too much by stress and I get impatient when things ae not materializing despite of my hard work? I get overwhelmed because I’m only human after all! At least I found this blog, and that helps. I gotta remember to drop by often to get some inspiration and motivation. Thanks for putting this resource together!

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