It seems that every time you turn around, you are reading something about how to take care of your physical health, so if you eat a balanced diet, exercise at least 30 minutes 3 times per week, stopped smoking awhile back, and only have the occasional social drink… Congratulations! You’re on a good path to live a healthier and longer life.
However, something that is not addressed as often as the physical, is how to take care of our emotional health. Fortunately, it seems that doctors and scientists are finally catching up with the fact that several (if not most) physical problems start on the mental and emotional planes. When you keep your emotions balanced, it will be much easier for you to deal with life’s ups and downs. The following five tips for emotional well-being will certainly help you bridge the gap between physical and emotional health for a healthier, more balanced lifestyle.
Five Tips for Emotional Well-Being
Are you the kind of person who always sees the glass half empty or the silver lining in life’s challenging situations? Studies have shown that people who focus on the positive side of things, usually experience less stress and manage chronic pain better. They also seem to have a lower incidence of heart disease and even cancer!
Thus, if you are the kind of person who’s always expecting the worst, remember that while you are not in charge of everything that happens in your surroundings, you can control your thoughts, so regardless of circumstances, learn to practice positive thinking.
Be a Self-Pleaser
Do you find yourself saying “yes” way too often? While helping people promotes good feelings, the giving and receiving cycle must be balanced to promote emotional health. Being a people pleaser will backfire sooner or later, making you feel used and abused. This can eventually hurt your emotional and physical health, as you start resenting those that ask for help regularly.
The good news is that it is never too late to start setting boundaries and saying “no” politely. It may be hard to do at first, but once you get a hold of this, it will feel liberating. Make sure you dedicate some of that free time to treat and self-please yourself.
Do you feel defeated or like a failure when your goals or projects don’t turn out the way you had anticipated? While we all have our moments in which we want to throw everything out the window, developing resilience can benefit you in more than one way. When you learn to bounce back from setbacks, you develop inner strength and self-pride which will help you get balance in your emotions. At the same time, you gain experience which you could use to help others. This will nurture your emotional well-being and aid in your self-growth.
The best way to develop resilience is to become aware of the “why me” self-pity feelings as soon as they arise. From that stance, you can re-frame the experience and deliberately choose to see the good within it… What did you learn? How can you use what you learned for a better outcome next time around? Whatever you learned – that — is the good thing to focus on.
Do you tend to hold grudges when someone hurts you? Anger, even when subtle, and resentment are two of the most negative feelings you can harbor. They are linked to sustained stress, emotional pain, and depression. These powerful negative feelings may also lead to lower immune response, heart disease, and even cancer.
Thus, the need to learn to let go and forgive cannot be over-emphasized. Granted, it may not be an easy thing to do for those that have been holding grudges for awhile. A good starting point is the realization that grudges hurt you much more than your counterpart. It is also true that forgiveness will heal you even if the other person does not (or cannot) accept your forgiveness. And you may also have to learn to forgive yourself. So above it all, learn to forgive and do it for yourself.
Laugh Big! – LOL
Do you tend to take life too seriously? Truth is, few things in life go perfectly fine and according to exactly how we plan them. Taking things too seriously is harmful to your health because it makes you tense and it affects your emotions by putting yourself down with comments such as “I could have done this differently” or “I shouldn’t have done that.” When you look at it closely, that is counterproductive and kind of silly, as we cannot change what already happened with these types of comments or thoughts. On the contrary, these kinds of thoughts will lower your self-esteem and create stress.
Thus, learn to laugh at your mishaps and silly twists of fate. It will help you put things in perspective and most of the time you’ll end up realizing it was not as bad as it seemed after all. As long as you’re alive, laugh it off, and try again!
Did you find these five tips for emotional well-being insightful? What else could you add to this list to help keep your emotional health in check? Please share your comments below, and through Social Media if you enjoyed this post. Thanks!