Five Tips for Emotional Well-Being

Last Updated On: March 29, 2017

Five tips for emotional wellbeingIt seems that every time you turn around, you are reading something about how to take care of your physical health, so if you eat a balanced diet, exercise at least 30 minutes 3 times per week, stopped smoking awhile back, and only have the occasional social drink… Congratulations! You’re on a good path to live a healthier and longer life.

However, something that is not addressed as often as the physical, is how to take care of our emotional health. Fortunately, it seems that doctors and scientists are finally catching up with the fact that several (if not most) physical problems start on the mental and emotional planes. When you keep your emotions balanced, it will be much easier for you to deal with life’s ups and downs. The following five tips for emotional well-being will certainly help you bridge the gap between physical and emotional health for a healthier, more balanced lifestyle.

Five Tips for Emotional Well-Being

  • Become Optimistic

Are you the kind of person who always sees the glass half empty or the silver lining in life’s challenging situations? Studies have shown that people who focus on the positive side of things, usually experience less stress and manage chronic pain better. They also seem to have a lower incidence of heart disease and even cancer!

Thus, if you are the kind of person who’s always expecting the worst, remember that while you are not in charge of everything that happens in your surroundings, you can control your thoughts, so regardless of circumstances, learn to practice positive thinking.

  • Be a Self-Pleaser

Do you find yourself saying “yes” way too often? While helping people promotes good feelings, the giving and receiving cycle must be balanced to promote emotional health. Being a people pleaser will backfire sooner or later, making you feel used and abused. This can eventually hurt your emotional and physical health, as you start resenting those that ask for help regularly.

The good news is that it is never too late to start setting boundaries and saying “no” politely. It may be hard to do at first, but once you get a hold of this, it will feel liberating. Make sure you dedicate some of that free time to treat and self-please yourself.

  • Develop Resilience

Do you feel defeated or like a failure when your goals or projects don’t turn out the way you had anticipated? While we all have our moments in which we want to throw everything out the window, developing resilience can benefit you in more than one way. When you learn to bounce back from setbacks, you develop inner strength and self-pride which will help you get balance in your emotions. At the same time, you gain experience which you could use to help others. This will nurture your emotional well-being and aid in your self-growth.

The best way to develop resilience is to become aware of the “why me” self-pity feelings as soon as they arise. From that stance, you can re-frame the experience and deliberately choose to see the good within it… What did you learn? How can you use what you learned for a better outcome next time around? Whatever you learned – that — is the good thing to focus on.

  • Adopt Forgiveness

Do you tend to hold grudges when someone hurts you? Anger, even when subtle, and resentment are two of the most negative feelings you can harbor. They are linked to sustained stress, emotional pain, and depression. These powerful negative feelings may also lead to lower immune response, heart disease, and even cancer.

Thus, the need to learn to let go and forgive cannot be over-emphasized. Granted, it may not be an easy thing to do for those that have been holding grudges for awhile. A good starting point is the realization that grudges hurt you much more than your counterpart. It is also true that forgiveness will heal you even if the other person does not (or cannot) accept your forgiveness. And you may also have to learn to forgive yourself. So above it all, learn to forgive and do it for yourself.

  • Laugh Big! – LOL 

Do you tend to take life too seriously? Truth is, few things in life go perfectly fine and according to exactly how we plan them. Taking things too seriously is harmful to your health because it makes you tense and it affects your emotions by putting yourself down with comments such as “I could have done this differently” or “I shouldn’t have done that.” When you look at it closely, that is counterproductive and kind of silly, as we cannot change what already happened with these types of comments or thoughts. On the contrary, these kinds of thoughts will lower your self-esteem and create stress.

Thus, learn to laugh at your mishaps and silly twists of fate. It will help you put things in perspective and most of the time you’ll end up realizing it was not as bad as it seemed after all. As long as you’re alive, laugh it off, and try again!

Did you find these five tips for emotional well-being insightful? What else could you add to this list to help keep your emotional health in check? Please share your comments below, and through Social Media if you enjoyed this post. Thanks!

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29 Responses to Five Tips for Emotional Well-Being

  1. Jaime May 3, 2015 at 10:13 AM #

    Thanks for the helpful info, Tammy! Those five tips to emotional well-being are extremely helpful as long as the reader can truly apply each of them to their everyday lives. I simply love the forgiveness and laugh out loud sections because I already exercise both of them regularly. The tip I can definitely take from you, though, is the one about being a self-pleaser. I have always had the problem of being a “yes girl” even if it means that I have to suffer for it. It definitely is tiresome and emotionally draining. I have to admit, I still say yes to my husband at all times, even when I don’t want to do something, placing my own needs dead last and I am paying for it emotionally. I will definitely work on pleasing myself from now on!

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 8:12 PM #

      Awareness is definitely the first step, Jaime. You are on a good path to change, so you are more emotionally fulfilled and the relationship does not become tiresome and boring. You might be surprised to see that your husband may welcome your changes. I’ve seen great transformations in relationships when things get balanced, and you are able to express your needs as well. Best to you!

  2. pafjlh May 4, 2015 at 12:22 PM #

    These are very good tips and some that I should keep in mind. I do agree though, that the one about forgiveness isn’t too easy. We do tend to hold onto grudges perhaps longer then we should. Also, laughter is helpful in day to day life. It puts us in a good mind set.

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 8:23 PM #

      You’re right. Forgiveness does not come easy to many. It is my opinion that it has to do with self-evolution and something we must strive to achieve. It has to do with detachment, from seeing things as they are, regardless of how we see them… make sense? I suggest you read “The Power of Now“. Eckhart Tolle has some good advise for this in his great book.

      Best!

  3. Sara Q May 4, 2015 at 12:28 PM #

    My family and friends think I’m an optimistic woman but it is sometimes hard to keep up with it because I get criticized by some as living in denial when a problem strikes. They sometimes make me doubt. What do you suggest?

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 8:17 PM #

      Sara,

      Unfortunately, most people are not optimistic naturally, especially if their focus is on “what’s wrong” with the world instead of on what’s right. I’d suggest you get attuned with your intuition. If it “feels” ok to be optimistic about a particular thing, then go with it. Don’t doubt it. When you pay attention, the answers are all inside of you.

      Namaste

    • Stephanie August 10, 2015 at 9:36 PM #

      Unfortunately, we live in a fairly negative world. The sad thing is that negative people are missing out on the beauty all around them. People like you are a ray of sunshine even if other people don’t understand it. Don’t let anyone change you. Keep being positive and just know that you are touching people’s lives even if you don’t always know it. Positive people get positive results!!!

  4. apsuccess May 4, 2015 at 7:01 PM #

    I think these points are relative and helpful. Emotion is something that truly has to be contained and I see the balance and strength your points can provide. My favorite is laughter. I have learned to enjoy more laughter and it has enhanced my life so much. It is a great balancer and seems to calm my emotions.

    I think I am most emotional when I am defensive, so I would add to the list, to take a breath when you have been offended or feel you have to be on the defense, in order to calm emotions and speak from a higher perspective.

    • Tammy May 5, 2015 at 8:28 PM #

      Great suggestion. Yes, you are right. I also believe that breathing is a powerful tool, and unfortunately, one that we don’t give too much credit to. I’ve written about this in other articles. Thanks for the reminder!

  5. EditorsRHumansToo! May 13, 2015 at 8:15 AM #

    Okay with “Develop resilience” and all the rest you offer. “Laugh Big”, I’m good with that. “Adopt forgiveness”? I think slowly recovering from the hurt will make forgiveness a reality in time. Healing does take a while to process deeply.

    Your teaching tools and guidelines to abundant life are, indeed, liberating. Thank you! 🙂

    • Tammy May 13, 2015 at 9:24 PM #

      Glad these principles are helping you. Yes, healing takes its time, but it’s well worth the effort and patience. Best!

  6. nytegeek May 21, 2015 at 12:12 AM #

    I think forgiveness is an important step. it is hard to be happy or healthy if you are holding onto grudges, hate, or anger. Learning to let go can be hard for people but it is certainly rewarding.

  7. Stephanie June 4, 2015 at 8:19 AM #

    These are so on point. I have been in a very destructive relationship for 10 years. I have been totally wrapped up in him and his issues and found myself frustrated, sad, and forgotten. I made the decision to leave and I forgave him, I began to concentrate on myself and my children and it is amazing the freedom I feel!!! Great post!!

  8. Connie June 4, 2015 at 3:35 PM #

    I’m not certain you have to be optimistic, realistic yes, but optimistic no. Expecting more than is possible or what can happen is not going to help your emotional well being. I know from experience that this is the case and am currently 4 weeks post major surgery on my back. I have been realistic about my recover the entire time. I always knew full recovery was never on the books. Being optimistic and hoping for it would not have helped me and understanding this has done far more for me than all but the last surgery.

    Being a self-pleaser once in a while is a really good thing and it is exceptionally good for your well being. I can’t agree more.

    Developing resilience helps considerably. Dropping the ‘why me act’ and adopting the ‘I’ve been worse’ approach is a much better policy. Currently I am looking a not being able to walk far ever again, but I am not mourning the days when I was able to take 27 mile hikes in the wilderness in a day. I remind myself each and every day just 8 months ago before surgery, after my back went, my right leg was dead. I could not use it and I could barely get around with crutches. It was totally paralyzed following a catastrophic disc failure in my spine, something that turned out to be a congenital fault I knew nothing about. I am probably going to need crutches for the rest of my life, and quite possibly a wheelchair when we want to go shopping, but I have been much worse. It is good to remind yourself of this, so now there are no tears, only joy that I can walk a few hundred meters now and time is the best healer there is.

    Adopting forgiveness is something I am not certain I can do for the people who hurt me in my past. I can let go of the past, I can not let it control my future and it has not controlled my future, but I cannot forgive them for what they did to me, sadly.

    Laughing – I am good at that. It is all I have left really. I guess there is still room for improvement! lol

    • Tammy June 20, 2015 at 11:19 PM #

      There is always room for improvement and healing, for sure. Ultimately, what you want to achieve is influenced by your beliefs. I thank you for having shared of your experience and I send you healing thoughts and positive vibes for a prompt recovery. Namaste

  9. mandamoooo July 29, 2015 at 2:18 PM #

    I’ve definitely been an accomplice to all these feelings. I try to look at any setbacks or difficult times as to how they are helping me. I ask myself, “how is this helping me?”. I try to see if it’s because I need more self confidence, or something I’ve been struggling to do with any inner feelings, even if it’s to remember to stop and breathe. It really is about a our perspective on how we see everything.

  10. kristin October 7, 2016 at 7:01 PM #

    Thank you so much Tammy for such great points to focus on. The other replies also make me realize that I am not alone. 🙂 I am also a “yes girl” and find it almost impossible to request anything for my enjoyment. Being resilient is also such good medicine! I try to spend only a short time to acknowledge or feel that something was hurtful and then tell myself, ” OK, it is over. Let’s focus on something else now that is not hurtful.” It is so easy to let something painful weigh one down. Thanks again for such a great article! 🙂

  11. Visioneering Lifestyle October 11, 2016 at 2:27 PM #

    I am optimistic about your offer of practical ways to enjoy emotional stability. Emotional health completes the wholeness of a human being: emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. Laughter ranks my first choice in coping mechanism. I’ve tried laughter –genuine laughter– as I let go of some inward pain and sadness. No, it’s not denial of the facts and realities of pain. But laughter does bring relief, comfort and lasting effect on my disposition in my circumstances. I think it’s more of humor that brings out the best in my situations.

    Forgiveness, to me, comes after a genuine seeking of my forgiveness. I think, not doing to avenge for the harm done is a form of forgiveness already. But truthful apology results sweeter renewal and freedom for the one forgiving. You have great tools for advice to lead an abundant life here. Thank you.

  12. Gemma Rowlands October 30, 2016 at 9:30 AM #

    Laughing is amazing, and you would be shocked at just how much better I have felt when I meet up with my friends and have a good laugh with them. It’s happened to me many times. When I have a problem and feel down, I just phone one of my friends for a chat, and they make me laugh so much that I always feel much better about everything by the end of the call, even though my problem is still there. It really is great, and something that I would fully recommend to anyone. Your emotional health is very important, so make sure that you never let it slide.

  13. Nevin Starr December 1, 2016 at 3:59 AM #

    I find that I have a good idea of what I need to do to feel better, lose weight, etc. What I am lacking, is the ability to DO these things. I feel I have no will power! I am completely co-dependent. People say things like “reward yourself with ____ after you ____” But that requires self control and will power. If I had either of those things I wouldn’t need to reward myself at all because I would already be doing said things!

    • Tammy December 3, 2016 at 3:11 AM #

      Hi Nevin!
      You may want to check this article on Free Will & Choice
      at the main Tools for Abundance portal. I think it’ll help.
      Best to you!

  14. Jasmine December 17, 2016 at 2:35 PM #

    Forgiveness is something that I definitely need to work on. I often hear that I must forgive others, but how often do I hear that I need to forgive myself? Hardly ever. Being able to care for yourself is emotionally wise and just as important as taking care of yourself physicially. Though I think some people put more emphasis on their physical health than their emotional health, and I believe both are equally important.

  15. jsmoresugar January 23, 2017 at 6:40 AM #

    I can personally attest to all five of these tips. Attitude is huge. One of my dad’s philosophies is about how you can’t always change the situation you’re in, but you can decide your attitude, and that makes the biggest difference than you can imagine. Laughing in the face of trials is one of the coolest things ever. Not only does it provide health benefits, but it also shows strength.

  16. Peppered February 7, 2017 at 9:08 PM #

    Great read! My favorite part was the section on Forgiveness. Unforgiveness will decay you from the inside out and once it takes root it will darken everything you do. People who are fans of holding grudges often fail to realize that they are damaging themselves far beyond anything they are doing to the person they refuse to forgive. I heard a quote once, although I have no idea who to attribute it to, that goes like this: “There is no weakness in forgiveness.” And it quickly became one of my favorite quotes. It is so true. Unforgiveness does not take strength, but forgiveness always will.

  17. Maria G. February 18, 2017 at 3:13 AM #

    What a lovely post this is. I find myself being pessimistic about life very often, and it is hard for me to look for the good things out there. I know that I need to learn to see things more optimistically though, and I think this blog right here is a good place for me to start with the positive thinking. It’ll be hard, but I’ll give it my best. Maybe it will even help my general health and leave me feeling less drained throughout the day if I stop being so negative all the time. I hope to find more posts like this one as I go through your blog – what a wonderful find this site was. Thank you so much for taking the time to help people come to harmony with themselves. XOXO.

  18. Carmen R. March 29, 2017 at 4:13 AM #

    I really appreciate this post. There are times that I’ve been too hard on myself for not getting work done the way it should be. It’s just that there are too many deadlines at work on top of being a mother and wife, and I want to do everything the right way. I guess my mother is right when she tells me I’m a perfectionist, and should not be too hard on myself. Still, sometimes I feel frustrated when things are not done exactly the way I want them and the feeling makes everything seem worst than it really is. I have to work on myself, especially in forgiveness, resilience and perhaps not taking life too seriously so I can laugh and relax a bit more.

  19. Joseph April 11, 2017 at 6:03 PM #

    If I were to take it one step further, I think I would add ‘take things one moment at a time’. So often I have found that people jump the gun and start imagining an outcome way before anything is even started. I am not saying that they can’t be right, my point is this is a sure way to start down the road with anxiety, or guilt or and number of unreasonable expectations. Both good and bad.

    Just because things are not perfect in the moment does not mean they will not work out okay in the long haul. One of the hardest tings for me to learn is just to take things one moment at a time and not jump to all sorts of conclusions too fast. Funny, when I did finally stop doing that, I soon realized that things are not always the way you think they are. Now I keep an open mind and wait for events to present themselves before I make any assumptions. I have found myself being much less stressed this way.

  20. Zen Frog April 15, 2017 at 1:18 AM #

    I love all five of these tips. They’re not revolutionary ideas, I must say. Some I’ve seen mentioned over and over again, others should hopefully be pretty obvious without being told, but after a little introspection you realize you could be doing better in each category, so I appreciate the reminder.

    “A good starting point is the realization that grudges hurt you much more than your counterpart.”

    What a great sentence, clearly stating something I think lots of people overlook. You have no idea how much I wish I could get my friends to apply this attitude!

  21. Dawn April 17, 2017 at 12:34 AM #

    I love this post! I struggle with taking everything in life too seriously and as a result I stress out over small things. I try to laugh at things that may otherwise irritate or upset me, but I still need to work on this aspect of myself. Forgiveness is a hard step for me. I hold grudges and tend to do so for long periods of time. It’s a hard thing to simply forgive someone for something they have done but I have to admit that it is very rewarding once I overcome it. I also believe that to truly be healthy you need to be emotionally healthy. So many people forget about their own emotional health in an effort to please everyone else. I was a people pleaser for a long time. I would make everyone else around me happy even if it resulted in my unhappiness. I have recently started to pay more attention and please myself rather than everyone else and so far I find it rewarding. I take small steps everyday and I will continue to do so. Thank you for these wonderful tips!

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