If so, you are not alone. Truth is, everyone needs encouragement. As the social beings that we are, we all need the recognition and support that encouragement offers us, especially in times of distress.
Encouragement can raise our spirit at anytime but especially when we are going through frustration and have been feeling like giving up.
One of the saddest things is that when most of us are considering giving up, it’s a sign that we may be just about to find the solution to a difficulty or a way around the problem at hand. So imagine how much a couple of words can do!
This is why an uplifting and encouraging comment can mean the difference between failure or success to the receiver. In this way, we can be the contributors to the other person’s success even if not obvious at first. This also relates to the fact that a discouraged person cannot think rationally, especially if they have been on the same situation for a while. They may feel trapped and out of solutions.
However, a couple of words of encouragement can lift that veil of defeat and open up an alternative solution that they hadn’t thought of. We call this “having an aha! moment” which has more of a possibility to happen when the person’s feelings and emotions shift due to a word of encouragement. It’s like the cognitive part of the brain opens up and starts thinking rationally again.
And encouragement goes way beyond that. One thing not too many people consider is that when one offers a word of encouragement to a person going through a hardship, not only the receiver benefits but the giver as well. Something magical and symbiotic happens between the two. This is due to reciprocity as suggested by the law of attraction and karmic laws.
In life and in general, we receive in the same proportion to what we give, and encouragement is no exception. Think about it in this way: When you offer encouragement, you are giving something positive of yourself. Your positive words are packed with good vibe and energy that will make you feel good as well. Perhaps you relate because at some level you understand what the other person is going through. Maybe you have been in a similar situation yourself, so you feel kind and compassionate. You are showing your humanity. All of these are “feel-good” emotions that can make your day as well.
Moreover, when you encourage a friend, you strenghten the friendship, and even when you encourage a stranger, you open the possibility to start a new friendship. At the end, everyone benefits.
One last thought… you will likely need a word of encouragement at some time in the future and as such, if you have been kind to give, you are deemed to receive as well. As such, encouragement can turn us into encouragers as we develop our empathy toward others, and this symbiotic exchange can have a positive impact in both parties, now and in the future.
As they say, words are powerful. Using them to uplift someone is a powerful way to use them. Can you remember a time in your life when your words of encouragement had a positive impact on a person? How did it affect you? Please share of your experience. Thank you!